On December 21 , 2022 on the winter solstice I was told that my auntie was going to meet her creator… This made me feel very angry because I did not feel it was time! From my experiences of death people usually pass away within three months of their birthday… This felt very unnatural So together with my mom my brother and my sister we went up to the hospital to say our goodbyes bringing her frankincense and other gifts to ease and bridge the world! But she did not pass away at all in fact she seemed rather annoyed at us as we said our goodbyes Realizing afterwards that my family had a little trauma over the loss of your father my aunties husband who had suddenly passed away in Thailand without a warning and our response to death feels immediate as a result like we want to be there no matter the distance we would drop everything So in this case I am very grateful for the extra time to have with my dear wise aunt one of my closest family members who is not only family but a dear friend Assume we share medicines and have even shared some travels in Costa Rica together experiencing a great awakening at a young age I remember as she shared a little medicine in my room and some of the wisdom that came from her Nana And how I felt as though I was lifting out of my bed and the corners of the hotel room resort were filled with cloud like mystical haze Ever since then I have loved my visits with my auntie Sharon who was once known as the black sheep of the family for her spiritual connection to those on the other side otherwise known as a spiritual medium Her mother too practised the same spiritual craft born on October 31 in auspicious day and holiday in the Celtic calendar where the veils between the worlds were thin Who this month I have been on a bit of a sabbatical to write and to create I found myself calling to the Cowichan Valley instead of going to Mexico as I wanted all my time to be very much on purpose I had the opportunity to stay with a dear friend at her ecosinuary for the week where I could visit my auntie every day bringing her gifts Of natural medicine and beauty … I realize that my aunt had a lot of energy left in her and a lot of wisdom yet still to teach and share and that she was still going to be with us for sometime However when a little songbird took her last flight in front of us and crashed into Cari‘s deck I felt death calling for more just than this little bird And then the next few days carry realized one of her beautiful best friends, Nikki her dog was dying The day is that followed went quick and as the vet showed up with medicines that would bring her final breath others showed up to grieve and to support Days before Sarah Kerr PhD founder of sacred Deas and teacher of working as a death Doula was on the land… I had a few moments of intimate connection with her and one of the biggest impacts of what was said was beauty is the solution to grief. So together through the beauty of song and flowers we held a Sacred ceremony ritual for this best friend and pet. So many questions continued to arised after this. How do we hold ritual for grief? How do we hold ceremony for the losses and rights of passages that we go through? How do we tend to the dying? And then the bodies of those that have passed whether they be pets peoples or placentas from miscarriages? I’m going to continue this journey of exploration and along the way I will gather the tools and medicines to help in this process . whether it be through sacred death dream pillows, Gathering greif songs , Creating flower Mandela rituals, or planting trees over the bodies of lost children …. I know with a little help from community and contributing more from the beauty on our lives we can help each other grow and grieve … |
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